Tamara Skjolden, RMFT, RCC
Registered Marriage and Family Therapist | Registered Clinical Counsellor
Real change is possible.
Not the kind where you simply learn to cope better, but the kind where something genuinely shifts inside you.
I am not especially interested in surface fixes. And if you found your way here, chances are you aren’t either.
I offer individual therapy and experiential interpersonal process groups for people who want something real to change in how they relate with themselves and others.
Some people come for deep individual work, wanting to understand themselves more fully in the presence of another person. Others discover that the patterns they most need to change only become visible in a group – in relationship with others.
There’s a place for both here. If you are looking for individual therapy or group-based experiential work, you can explore both options below.
ABOUT
I have been practicing psychotherapy for over 25 years. I work from a place of respect, honesty and genuine curiosity. I stay committed to my own growth and try to be as real as I humanly can.
My work is grounded primarily in Family Systems, Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP). These approaches pay close attention to where we came from, the parts of ourselves we learned to protect, and what gets in the way of real connection.
The first group any of us ever belonged to was our family. That is where we learned how to be seen, how to be loved, and what to do when we were misunderstood, too much, not enough, or emotionally alone.
Individual therapy matters because sometimes you need someone fully attuned to you to help uncover what got buried along the way.
Group therapy matters because many relational patterns do not fully emerge in isolation. They emerge in closeness, vulnerability, misunderstanding, comparison, longing, conflict, silence, and the tension between authenticity and self protection.
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY
Many people come to therapy because they notice the same patterns repeating in their lives and relationships. Often they have already spent years trying to understand themselves on their own. Some have been in therapy before. Yet something still feels stuck.
Individual therapy with me is experiential and relational. We pay attention not only to what you think about your life, but also to what happens emotionally and relationally in real time between us because that is often where the most important information lives.
If something in you feels ready, you can learn more below.
ONLINE PROCESS GROUPS
Early in my career I joined an interpersonal process group for therapists and walked out feeling more myself than I had in a very long time. I have never forgotten what became possible in that room.
When people commit to showing up honestly with each other, things begin to move. Patterns become visible. Defenses soften. What could not shift alone sometimes begins to shift in connection.
If you have ever sensed that the next step in your growth might involve being more real with other people rather than figuring everything out alone, that instinct might be worth listening to.